Your relationship may seem like the most important thing in your world but always remember the reason it started in the first place: out of everyone else you made a lasting impression.
Sometimes in relationships people get so wrapped up in being content in togetherness that they forget to take the time to work on themselves as an individual. This important realization may be meaningful in the long run; will your relationship fizzling out or will it last?
According to the author of bestselling novel Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus, John Gray, he claims that “men are like rubber bands. It is part of his natural cycle to get close, pull away and get close again”. Some men need to assert their independence in order to feel happy in a relationship, if you respect his need for alone time he will become more attentive and appreciate you more. If a man feels as though he has to be around you all the time and does not get enough ‘guy time’ he may become moody, passive and defensive. This could explain why many men have commitment issues and a negative preconception of marriage.
Women, on the other hand, need to take care of themselves in order to build their self-esteem. If they do not take time to focus on themselves every now and then they may focus too much on their partner and feel a sense of worthlessness if things go wrong and they end up alone. It becomes a vicious cycle because if you make your other half the most important part of your life they may realize that you have little or nothing left to offer them. A strong support system is integral to personal happiness, spending more time with your friends will make any problems seem easier to deal with and will reduce feelings of loneliness if things go wrong.
Long distance relationships allow the couple time to be independent and do what they have always done before the relationship started. In some ways it can make the relationship stronger because the time you do spend together is never wasted with arguments just time spent enjoying being around each other. The relationship feels less restrictive and so is better for those not ready for something serious. But on the other hand, the distance can sometimes be a negative experience. As you are used to being alone and may realize you do not need the other person or forget you are in a relationship and may seek romance from others and give into temptation.
Remember: every relationship is unique, so stop comparing yours to your friends’ and just enjoy it. Alone time can be healthy and good for a relationship, so do not forget to build on that vital relationship with yourself. However, if you get to the point where you prefer time alone to time together maybe it is best to stay friends.